There are many lies in the daily life of every person. It is an integral part of life and communication. It is not necessarily about the negative connotation of lies that are harmful, for example, to tell someone that you liked the gift, if in fact it is not – it is to lie, but such a lie does not harm anyone globally.
Children also often tell lies – out of fear, shame, praise, or personal gain. In parents, children’s lies, if directed at them, often cause resentment and a feeling of betrayal and, in an emotional impulse, adults punish children for it.
This is an inefficient method. It is much better to find the root cause of why the child told a lie and try not to succumb to emotions. In addition, the parents themselves often push children to lie. For example, they are asked (or forced) to say that the child liked the gift from his aunt, if in fact the child is dissatisfied with it. Also, children take an example from their parents when they notice that they sometimes tell lies.
Often children learn to lie to avoid punishment. For example, if you forbade your child to eat candy, and then, after asking the child, you found out that she ate them and punished them. If this is repeated regularly, then later the child will begin to lie so as not to receive punishment.
The desire to get something can also be the cause of children’s lies. For example, if the parents promised a reward for the homework done, and the child for some reason did not fulfill it, then for the sake of remuneration he may lie.
A child can tell a lie also when he wants to protect one of his comrades, girlfriends or loved ones. Knowing that the pot in the class was broken by your best friend, your son can lie by pointing to another boy (or saying he doesn’t know who did it) to protect his comrade from punishment.
Bragging is one of the most common types of lies. His children use to seem better, “cooler” in the eyes of their peers. It is fair to note that adults often tell lies for such a purpose, so before reproaching a child for it, analyze your behavior.
Adults often tolerate deception, consciously or unconsciously teach children to tell lies, and are always an example for them. Therefore, do not punish the child for untruths – together find the cause. If a lie hurt someone, then explain it to the child. Work to build a trusting relationship with your child is always a winning strategy.
